Heartbreak is a universal experience that comes with a very intense emotional pain. You should know that healing takes time, but there are things you can do to support yourself through the process.
Go through it. Not around it. – There’s no shortcut. You might be tempted to forge the pain and swear off all future relationships. But hardening your heart won’t serve you well. By going through the intense pain, you will surface a stronger and better you.
Deal appropriately with negative thoughts. – Yes, there will absolutely be days which you will experience negative thoughts that continue to visit your healing heart when you don’t want them to. So, what you can do is to end that cycle and change the patterns of your thoughts. Meditation is a great way to keep your mind and heart at peace. Acknowledge what you feel whether you are scared and hopeless. Slowly, your mind will return to a more balanced state.
List your strengths and weaknesses. – Acknowledge what are you good at and what do you think you need to give more time to grow. List it down, from as simple as you know how to bake or play a piano to giving a big joke that you can make people laugh. Remember, there are no small or big strengths and weaknesses. Once you list them down, flourish your strength and give time to your weaknesses so you can turn it to a challenge you will manage.
Find creative hobbies or outlets. – Make a change of pace. Do you know that exercising can help you cope up with negative thoughts? Or you can write your relationship story. Do it on a third-person POV. How you guys met, how did it all start, then the break-up. Immerse yourself in an activity –exercise, pot-making is a relaxing hobby too.
Practice self-compassion. – It involves treating yourself with love and respect while not being judgmental to yourself. This might sound silly, but put yourself as “the friend” who listens to the break-up story. Now, if you were the friend, what would you tell your friend? What would you offer them? How would you show you care for them? Now, apply it to yourself.
Connect with yourself. – When you go through a big loss, sometimes you feel lost and disconnected. You are unsure and scared. Go out, exercise, be on a hike, spend time with nature and connect with yourself again.
Find HOPE. – Believe that a better place exists. That this pain will not be with you forever, that one day you will enjoy a coffee in the morning again. Go out with your support system whether they are your friends or families. Hope is believing that one day, pain will go away.
Because in order to forgive and past fear, you need to find hope.
And remember to love life again and be in love.
Sharing with you a short video of how to mend a broken heart.
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