1. They’re Afraid to Be Alone.
It is expected for an individual to want someone to share one’s life and experiences with and is the goal in life for many of us. Unfortunately, thinking this way makes some of us to just settle…settle for “good enough” in finding for the other half. We believe that letting go of the bird in a cage means not finding love anymore.
It is indeed overwhelming to put ourselves out there again to find the right person and so we keep the one we have now, even they treat us incorrectly.
If you’re in a toxic relationship, know that there is always another person out there for you.
You might not find them right away, and NEVER will if you choose to stay in the relationship you are currently in. There is a guy out there who will perfectly fit your whole.
2. They Don’t Feel Worthy About Themselves.
Research has shown that one of the most common results of toxic relationships is that they lower the victim’s self-esteem.
When you experience a continuous abuse in your partner, it will leave you feeling drained, isolated and belittled. You know that you are not being treated right but you start to believe you are unworthy of the good love and you totally have no idea how to find it.
Letting go of toxic love therefore requires you to focus on something that is important to you outside of yourself.
For me, that meant focusing on my business. Being able to transmit the pain of letting go of the relationship into something that makes me feel good about myself. Feeling good about myself allowed me to cut ties to my abuser and find someone who sees just how awesome I am.
3. They Have A Hard Time Breaking The Cycle.
Think about your daily routine of having your morning coffee as soon as you wake up and then it got broken, some of us will be annoyed the whole day. Simply because patterns and routines play a huge part of our lives.
In the beginning of a relationship, you are creating patterns and routines with your partner and those are being deeply rooted and nearly impossible to break.
There might be days you consider leaving the toxic relationship but the moment you try imagining what Christmas would be like or how spending your night all curled up on bed watching your favorite movies or series all alone, you end up abandoning that thought of leaving the relationship.
Even the on off cycle becomes a routine for you. Before you know it, after 8 weeks, you’re right back where you started.
If you can get past that first Christmas, or that 8-week mark, you can break the pattern. And you will.
4. They Accept The Blame Redirected at Them by Their Partners.
One of the most ridiculous things about being in a toxic relationship is you start blaming yourself for everything.
I have a client whose husband had an affair with one of their employees for three years, in that three years, she asked him to let go of the woman and her husband made his promises but never kept it. She never abandoned him all throughout.
Unfortunately, her husband made her feel that it is entirely her fault that they can’t be happy as a couple anymore because she can’t let it go.
His blame and accusations toward her became so intense she truly questioned her own mental health on some days.
If you keep on blaming yourself for all the unfortunate events that is happening in your relationship, you need to stop!
We all play a role in the difficult situations in our lives, but they are not all your fault.
5. They Believe This Connection Is Like No Other.
Many women fool themselves into believing that letting go of a relationship would be such a loss even if they share the relationship to a toxic partner.
Your love for this man might be so strong, it is not the “ultimate” love in the world and letting go of it does not mean you will never experience a greater love.
Let me tell you this, if you love the wrong person this much, imagine how intense the love you can give to the right person and how much can the right person love and respect you back.
If you can let go of your toxic love, you are WAY more likely to find a far deeper connection that is real, wonderful and magical.
Letting go of toxic relationships is difficult, but letting it go is your ticket to a happy life.
If you’re still unsure, ask yourself this telling question: Could you ever be happy if the rest of your life is the same as your life today?
For me, finally leaving my toxic relationship gave me the time and strength that I needed to focus on building my business and my self-esteem, and in doing so, I came to understand that I could break patterns and not only survive but thrive.
It’s okay to be alone. Being alone does not mean being lonely.
And, while your love was special, there is no better love in this world than the love you have for yourself.
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